TODAYDu family reunion. All of us together. I was mostly in coffee withdrawl. Head Ache. Still haven't quite figured it out. Other than that there is a definate generation gap.
It was really sad saying goodbye to Great-Aunt and Uncle. They sang for us some local operas on the car. Will no doubt see them again.
Am now at an aunt's house. Will get to taste some more of Shanghai tomorrow. Night!
YESTERDAY:We went to visit my Great-Grandmother and Father's tomb in Chang Shu (常熟). It was in the deep dark recesses of a forested hill. For the purpose of getting there before the gate guards forbid us to drive up, we woke at 5 and set off at around 5.30.
By the time we got to the hill at 6.30, there were already a lot of people there exercising but no guards. So we drove into the spot, and dove into the deep forest. Didn't really think of snakes at the time but really I should have. There were ants a centimetre long and mosquitos everywhere. And I mean everywhere. I have never in my life seen so many mosquitos congregated on one spot. It was actually quite scary. One need only to look at the air in front of one to see around 20-30 mosquitos after your blood. At this sight, we covered ourselves in mosquito repellent, to the point that even
I felt repelled, but that didn't deter them......my mother was positively dancing in fright, at least that much was extremely entertaining. My mosquito count has risen. And they are evil mosquitos. It has only started swelling today. Sigh. 忍受 . It's a good exercise. Just distance your mind from your body. Works with heat, itchiness, drunkeness, fatigue, pain....easier said than done of course.
After that exercise, we went to a noodle bar just at the foot of the mountain. Gosh I love noodle bars. This one I think was not as good as the one we had on horse-riding day. But cleaner. So, this backs up my theory that the dirtier the place, the better the food. This one's noodle was like, half cooked too. But I think that may be the style of the place. What was really interesting was the people there. First, the shoe shiner. Around mid 40s to early 50s I think. With straw shoes. Put the guy (with a fairly big gut) in a suit, and there was no difference between him and all the other people around the place. I was too shy to take a photo I'm afraid, but maybe dad, who seems to have almost mastered the art of being ignored, has.
I suppose the wealth gap has widened significantly and there is not much social security. The New China is, I'm afraid, a place for New Chinese. We don't get sick much, is ready to work the gruelling hours, handle the pressure, has the brains and aggression to navigate the ever-shifting maze that is China. Admittedly, all this sounds like a kind of paradise for myself at the moment. I have nothing to lose. Aim for the sun, and if you have reached half-way, you have success. I'm already on the ground, and this little birdie is ready to spread her wings. However, what about the other little birdies that are used to ocean airflow and suddenly someone builds a mountain range? In an ideal world, all those little birdies will be re-located, but mostly, with habitat destruction, they die off. . . so does that mean that it is actually due to the kindness and toughness of the human spirit that the wealth gap even exists? Now, that is a cruel thought, but I think, quite optimistic.
Man, I really know how to bs, we are only at 8 am.
Also went and had a look at the Yangtze delta. Gorgeous countryside. Retirement heaven. Like something out of a picture.
After that, lunch with an old friend of Great-Uncle at Changshu Development Area. Really pretty office. Details not really there, but at first glance, the white-collar dream. Haha. I'm dreaming a lot in this holiday isn't it?
Lunch was good, got introduced to the Chinese habit of drinking to one's higher level beings. And being a lower level being, that means emptying your cup to show respect. Luckily, I did 9% Yellow rice wine. Kinda like cooking wine but finer. A Changshu product. It's nice. Kinda like yellow sake. Low limit with a sweet, fragrant aftertaste. The lunch itself: some fish with poisonous blood, abalone, shrimp that are drowned in this sauce so that they breathe it in and have more flavour. Too raw though. I like my shrimps cooked. It would be nice if they seared it afterwards.
After that, Great-Uncle was nice enough to take us through Jiangsu-Nantong Bridge (苏通大桥). It was foggy, but the bridge was absolutely humongously breath-taking. Almost makes me wish I had done engineering. But that takes a less jealous heart than I can offer.
Oh, on hearts, I get Howl's Moving Castle now. Even beautiful superhumans have flaws and that even though a girl may not be pretty, she can capture that superhuman's heart through the strengh of her own. Inner beauty. So romantic...does it happen? Well, there are no beautiful superhumans in existence, so I suppose we will never know. Even if they did, there will probably be no Sophie to save them from being torn apart by all the people that lust after them and want to own them. So, that is why it is a good idea not to watch too much fantasy, gives one a distorted view of what might be. I have found that through much appreciation of the genre and much time spent trying to reconcile the world of dreams and the one I happen to live in. Same goes for video games btw. I know some people think it is escapism, but personally, I don't think most of them have anything to escape
from. Or nothing that bad. Just a immature kind of dreaming. But who am I to judge? Living on drugs is excellent until it's not possible. Gaming seems to have a longer possible addiction period, and no, how can I put this, widespread withdrawl symptoms. Maybe it's the next nirvana.